How did you become a Ron Perlman fan?

[MNK]

Everybody who has gotten a hug from him has said it was absolutey awesome. He only does it upon request however, he never offers.
I would never, not in 5 billion years have had the nerve to ask for that. And anyway, a hug wouldn't be enough, you'd want it to lead to something else.
I think one reason he might have brought his family along was to make the statement, "I'm not available." Again, I don't think handing out rejection is something he ever wants to do so he was probably looking not to come back to his room and find bare naked fans under his bed or in his closet. I mean, how awkward would that be?

[nyc828]

I can't imagine... can you??

[MNK]

Well of course I can. Come on now, ladies, tell me you haven't fantasized about doing something like that? Obviously I never would but believe me, I've thought about it. Course in my dreams he doesn't kick me out on my fat arse. The reality of the situation would suck, but the fantasy is lovely.

[nyc828]

I would love to meet him and for him to be my friend ( 35 yrs. of marriage and counting !! totally cool) . I believe even now we would have a ton of things to talk about.

[MNK]

I agree. I love listening to him talk. Friends would be lovely - but lovers would be better.

Have you ever seen the Friends episode where each one has a list of 5 fantasy lovers that if they get a chance with their significant other will have them a free pass to sleep with? Isabella Rosselli is on the top of Ross' list so when she comes into the coffee shop he tells her he is allowed to sleep with her. It was funny.

My point is I think everyone must fantasize sometime or other. I think it's allowed even if you're married. Not to the point that I do it, we've already established that's kind of nuts, but as long as you keep in within reasonable limits I don't think there's anything wrong with it.

We all gotta dream.

[nyc828]

There is nothing wrong with dreaming .. isn't that what makes us human???

[MNK]

Like with so many things, dreams are good in moderation.
We all need to believe something wonderful could happen to us any day, but we shouldn't get lost in them. Guess there must be a happy medium, I just haven't found it.

[nyc828]

You will as long as you believe and put yourself in position to execute if, the opportunity comes along. I am talking about a possible suitor.

[MNK]

I'm trying to get my head there. It isn't easy. The truth - with one exception the idea of being intimate with a man makes me nauseous. Literally. I don't understand that. I'm thinking maybe I'll try going back to the shrink. But the fact is they aren't miracle workers. The patient has to be willing to make changes and I'm not good at that.

But if I don't do something soon I'm gonna die practically a virgin. At this point I almost feel like one. I mean, I really should take the new boobs for a ride after they heal all the way up. I'm very slloowwly losing weight, like a pound or two a month. So I'm headed in the right direction on that score.

I wish I could talk to Perlman himself. A gentle brush off would probably help the process along. Maybe. But maybe even that wouldn't cure me. I have a feeling no one can help me with this but me.

And I'm at a dead end. I feel like I've tried absolutely everything and nothing has worked. I'm thinking maybe another man is the only thing that might shake me loose. But I was married when I first saw him, that didn't stop me at all. I'm almost at the point where I feel like I should just give up and give in. Know that I am never going to have anyone in my life.

Or not. I don't like the idea of quitting without a proper fight. What would Perlman say?

What he always says probably, "Don't give up on yourself." In the past he's looked at me like he felt sorry for me, I like to think he would root for me if he knew, that he would say I should shake this off and go out and find a way to be happy. In that odd way I do feel encouraged.

Sigh, why aren't there more men like him? Why do the icky kind grow on trees and men like him are few and far between?

Well, there are worse things than wanting someone you can't have. There's not wanting anyone ever, I think that would have been terrible. Or maybe I wouldn't miss what I never had.

I'm giving myself a headache. Thanks for putting up with me, ladies.

[nyc828]

I am sure he felt the same way after being rejected but , he put his heart out there and found the woman he has been with for 36 years. It doesn't sound like he had pity but,empathy in that look. Perhaps he felt bad because he knows what it means to be hurt and didn't want to hurt your feelings?